1 Corinthians Chapter 7
(Bible Study held at Community Bible Chapel, Hico, TX)
All About the Married, the Unmarried/Single and the Offspring of the Married
1 Cor 7:1 Now concerning the things whereof ye wrote unto me: It is good for a man not to touch a woman.
1 Cor 7:2 Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband.
1 Cor 7:3 Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence (attention- compassion- thoughtfulness- consideration- kindness- goodwill- care) and likewise also the wife unto the husband.
1 Cor 7:4 The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife.
In sexual matters the wife or the husband has not the right to deny the other sexual favors just because. Anger, teach a lesson, etc.
1 Cor 7:5 Defraud (keep back/deprive/refuse by fraud- lie- trick-mislead-treat badly/unfairly) ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency.(lack of self restraint/control)
1 Cor 7:6 But I speak this by permission, and not of commandment.
Paul says that you MAY do this but you are not COMMANDED to do this.
1 Cor 7:7 For I would that all men were even as I myself. But every man hath his proper gift of God, one after this manner, and another after that.
1 Cor 7:8 I say therefore to the unmarried and widows, It is good for them if they abide even as I.
1 Cor 7:9 But if they cannot contain, (control- restrain- keep in check) let them marry: for it is better to marry than to burn. (in lust)
PAUL has permission to SAY that you may remain SINGLE, but the LORD COMMANDS that if you DO MARRY you "must remain married".
1 Cor 7:10 And unto the married I command, yet not I, but the Lord, Let not the wife depart from her husband:
1 Cor 7:11 But and if she depart, let her remain unmarried, or be reconciled to her husband: and let not the husband put away his wife.
You can SERARATE but NOT DIVORCE
1 Cor 7:12 But to the rest speak I, not the Lord: If any brother hath a wife that believeth not, and she be pleased to dwell with him, let him not put her away.
If a BROTHER/SAVED man is married to an unbelieving/lost in sin woman and they get along pretty well let them stay together..
This is not saying that a believer marries an unbeliever, but that one or the other became a believer AFTER they were married.
1 Cor 7:13 And the woman which hath an husband that believeth not, and if he be pleased to dwell with her, let her not leave him
1 Cor 7:14 For the unbelieving husband is sanctified (blessed) by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified (blessed) by the husband: else were your children unclean; (morally impure- demonic-evil) but now are they holy. (sacred, morally blameless pure-righteous)
The children of at least ONE believing parent has a great advantage over the children of unbelievers.
1 Cor 7:15 But if the unbelieving depart, let him depart. (see verse 11- separate-not remarry) A brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases: but God hath called us to peace.
1 Cor 7:16 For what knowest thou, O wife, whether thou shalt save thy husband? or how knowest thou, O man, whether thou shalt save thy wife?
1 Cor 7:17 But as God hath distributed to every man, as the Lord hath called every one, so let him walk. And so ordain I in all churches.
If you got saved/Lord called you married to an unbeliever, STAY WITH HER/HIM IF YOU CAN.
1 Cor 7:18 Is any man called being circumcised? let him not become uncircumcised. Is any called in uncircumcision? let him not be circumcised.
There is a way to re-grow the foreskin. Have the husband ask me and he can tell you.
1 Cor 7:19 Circumcision is nothing, and uncircumcision is nothing, but the keeping of the commandments of God.
1 Cor 7:20 Let every man abide in the same calling wherein he was called.
1 Cor 7:21 Art thou called being a servant? care not for it: but if thou mayest be made free, use it rather.
This is speaking of a slave servant. A bondage servant not a hired servant. He is not to fight for his freedom, but if there is a possibility that he may be made free, take advantage of whatever is available to him to be made free. Care not for it. Dont worry about it.
1 Cor 7:22 For he that is called in the Lord, being a servant, is the Lord's freeman: likewise also he that is called, being free, is Christ's servant.
The slave/servant has a master and so does the free believer, as CHRIST is his MASTER.
1 Cor 7:23 Ye are bought with a price; be not ye the servants of men.
A slave/servant of man will obey his master in things but his heart will not be in it. God judges the heart.
1 Cor 7:25 Now concerning virgins I have no commandment of the Lord: yet I give my judgment, as one that hath obtained mercy of the Lord to be faithful.
1 Cor 7:26 I suppose therefore that this is good for the present distress, I say, that it is good for a man so to be.
1 Cor 7:27 Art thou bound unto a wife? seek not to be loosed. Art thou loosed from a wife? seek not a wife.
Are you MARRIED when you get saved. STAY MARRIED. Are you DIVORCED when you get saved. STAY UNMARRIED.
BUT if you are married and you get saved and your spouse does not believe, you can SEPARATE to keep peace but you CANNOT DIVORCE without sinning.
1 Cor 7:28 But and if thou marry, thou hast not sinned; and if a virgin marry, she hath not sinned. Nevertheless such shall have trouble in the flesh: but I spare you.
If you are DIVORCED when you get saved, you CAN REMARRY without sinning. If you were called as a SINGLE person, and a SINGLE person CAN MARRY without sinning.
DIVORCE of a believer does not make one SINGLE, but only the DEATH of a spouse does.
The status we are in as God calls us is what we are in His eyes. If we are married when called to salvation, He sees us as married. If we are divorced and living single when called to salvation, He sees us as never married. If we are married to spouse number 3 or four when we are called to salvation He sees us as married only to THIS PRESENT PERSON
1 Cor 7:29 But this I say, brethren, the time is short: it remaineth, that both they that have wives be as though they had none;
1 Cor 7:30 And they that weep, as though they wept not; and they that rejoice, as though they rejoiced not; and they that buy, as though they possessed not;
1 Cor 7:31 And they that use this world, as not abusing it: for the fashion of this world passeth away.
Believer are to live IN CHRIST--FOR CHRIST.
1 Cor 7:32 But I would have you without carefulness. He that is unmarried careth for the things that belong to the Lord, how he may please the Lord:
1 Cor 7:33 But he that is married careth for the things that are of the world, how he may please his wife.
1 Cor 7:34 There is difference also between a wife and a virgin. The unmarried woman careth for the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and in spirit: but she that is married careth for the things of the world, how she may please her husband.
1 Cor 7:35 And this I speak for your own profit; not that I may cast a snare upon you, but for that which is comely, (honorable) and that ye may attend upon the Lord without distraction.
1 Cor 7:36 But if any man think that he behaveth himself uncomely (un-honorable) toward his virgin, if she pass the flower of her age, and need so require, let him do what he will, he sinneth not: let them marry.
If a man is engaged to a virgin and he prolongs the marriage and keeps her tied up and away from other suitors until she is past being a prime catch he should do the honorable thing and not break the engagement, but marry her.
1 Cor 7:37 Nevertheless he that standeth stedfast in his heart, having no necessity, but hath power over his own will, and hath so decreed in his heart that he will keep his virgin, doeth well.
However-BUT, if the man is settled/sure in his heart and he has no need/uncontrollable desire to marry, he will keep the woman a virgin. He will not marry her.
1 Cor 7:38 So then he that giveth her in marriage doeth well; but he that giveth her not in marriage doeth better.
1 Cor 7:39 The wife is bound by the law as long as her husband liveth; but if her husband be dead, she is at liberty to be married to whom she will; only in the Lord.
1 Cor 7:40 But she is happier if she so abide, after my judgment: and I think also that I have the Spirit of God.
Paul is saying that marriage makes Marthas out of Marys, thus preventing the choice of "that good part" occupation with the Lord and his Word.
Luke 10:38-42 Now it came to pass, as they went, that he entered into a certain village: and a certain woman named Martha received him into her house. And she had a sister called Mary, which also sat at Jesus' feet, and heard his word. But Martha was cumbered (distracted) about much serving, and came to him, and said, Lord, dost thou not care that my sister hath left me to serve alone? bid her therefore that she help me. And Jesus answered and said unto her, Martha, Martha, thou art careful (care about) and troubled about many things: But one thing is needful: and Mary hath chosen that good part, which shall not be taken away from her.
Martha, you care about so many things, but only ONE THING is NEEDFUL. The Words of God that Jesus spoke.